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2018年3月11日,星期日

让我们来谈谈.....心理健康。



男装tal Health .....为什么要这样禁忌?

我有我的理论,所以对我无所适从。

If you take a glance 在 the history of mental health, in the distant past an individual was looked down upon if they had a mental health issue. Individuals were hidden away from society in institutions or hidden behind locked doors 和 never spoken of if they had a mental health disorder.

While treatments 和 therapies have changed in recent history, that taboo status is still very much present.

我相信,很少有人谈论精神健康,因为大多数社会对它不了解。当您查看媒体和电影/电视行业中精神健康问题的刻画时,有精神健康问题的人被刻画为疯狂或精神错乱,有时这种刻画被完全夸大了。这些刻画助长了社会所持的偏见,误解和缺乏理解,从而使禁忌标签根深蒂固。

这些描述并没有显示出抑郁症的真正一面,看着一个患有精神分裂症的人感到多么令人心碎,或者生活在一种七星直播状态下的不断地狱。这些刻画并没有显示出一些父母每天都在看着他们的孩子由于自卑和七星直播而导致自己难以起床的悲痛经历。 欺负.

而且由于仍然被诊断出患有精神健康问题,因此,那些遭受精神健康问题困扰的人可能会因为担心被周围的人排斥或审判而不愿公开自己的斗争。



I struggled with, 和 still do struggle with, 七星直播症 as a teenager 和 young adult but I always felt as though I had to put on a strong facade 和 just get on with whatever I was doing 在 any particular point in time. I have always 感到社交尴尬 我现在知道的是我的 七星直播 通过显示。我从来没有向任何人公开有关我的七星直播或抑郁的信息,因为我不想被同龄人评价。我也不认为我是一个好学生会认真对待我,没有在学校遇到麻烦,我怎么可能遭受七星直播困扰?我只是害羞,不是吗?

O通过紧急剖腹产后两周被诊断出患有纳塔尔抑郁症(PND),并服用药物以协助我度过日常工作。我回想起当时导致我的全科医生的确切事件,告诉我她认为我患有PND。长话短说,我的剖腹产疤痕是在O出生的两周前因非常讨厌的感染而裂开的。我们最终回到医院,当时我完全是一团糟,我说了句“一切都不好,我一生中唯一的好事就是我的孩子”,我的家庭医生对他说:“仁,你有一个美丽的孩子。”宝贝和一个充满爱心的丈夫,一切都会好起来的。但是,我们需要给您服用一些快乐的药丸,以帮助您进行理性思考。”

她是对的,我确实需要这些快乐的药丸来帮助我进行逻辑思考和思考,但这并不是我广为人知的事情,因为我对此诊断感到非常尴尬。我唯一能想到的是:“我是公共部门的专业人员,人们会怎么想?他们会认为我很虚弱。”嗯,事后看来是20/20,因为我现在可以看到我在想的是高度不合逻辑的。

我现在可以 see that my illogical thoughts about PND back in 2009 were due to the misconceptions that I had about PND. I also now know that PND is quite common 和 yet it still seems to be somewhat of a taboo subject.

Fast forward to 2014 和 once again I 发现 that I was struggling to think logically. However it wasn't due to having a newborn, nor was it due to having two very active children. It was due to the fact that we, as a family, weren't 医学和教育专业人员对L的整体健康,发展和挑战性行为非常重视。当我坐在L的全能崩溃之中,因为我不被允许在医生手术以外的繁忙道路上玩耍时,我的GP再次说了几句很有帮助的话。我的全科医生说:“仁,你有两个漂亮的孩子,你是一个了不起的妈妈,此刻你需要一些帮助以进行逻辑思考。”我带着快乐药丸的脚本离开了医生的手术,转介给我们的儿科医生以了解L的发育和行为问题以及对生活的新看法。

快一点到2018年,我正在学习如何帮助O解决她的七星直播症。我想让O具备她能够自我管理自己的七星直播所需要的技能,以便将来在她的七星直播决定抬头的时候,而且我知道在某个阶段,她将能够自信地使用她正在学习的策略。我也向她灌输七星直播是可以的。被诊断出患有七星直播症并不令人感到羞耻。曾经

But there still needs to be more done in society to break the misconceptions 和 hence break the taboo status of mental health issues. 和 only way to break misconceptions about mental health is to talk openly about the various issues that individuals in society struggle with on a daily basis.


我最近很幸运地参加了关于 O的七星直播 参加Michelle参加的心理健康系列活动 木乃伊 is publishing on her blog all through the month of 游行. Michelle interviewed people from all walks of life for her series to highlight various mental health issues - from 七星直播 through to Post Natal 萧条 和 everything in between.

我期待阅读本系列中的所有故事。我希望能深入了解那些就各种精神健康问题而奋斗的人的生活。

I hope that through the series, more people will come to understand what mental health issues are like 和 how they can help their friends 和 family who may be suffering from a similar condition manage their condition.

We all need to be brave 和 speak up to break down 和 challenge the misconceptions that society has about 男装tal Health issues. If more people have an understanding of what mental health issues are like, then perhaps it wouldn't be so difficult to open up 和 talk about mental health issues.

And what ever you do, do NOT tell someone who suffers from depression or 七星直播 to just be happy, to forget about what ever is worrying them. This is like telling someone that they should hold their head under water 和 breath. It is near impossible 和 not 在 all helpful advice.

您可以做的就是为他们服务。听他们说。

2017年9月16日,星期六

做我自己。社交尴尬的人!


直到最近,我还没有太多时间进行自我反思。

It was while talking with O recently about social interactions 在 school that were puzzling her, that I began to take a step back into my inner self, 和 boy did the memories come flooding back.

At times when I am talking with O or while I am managing one of L's meltdowns or talking with the little superheroes therapists 和 specialists, I am able to take a step back 和 I have flashbacks to my childhood, teenage years 和 even memories of while I was a young adult.

既然我有两个自闭症孩子,现在我的生活开始变得有意义。在过去的18个月左右的时间里,我经历了很多“哈哈”的时刻。

作为一个 child 和 a teenager I knew that I was different, 我只是 didn't know what the issue was.

作为一个 teenager 和 young adult I always 感到社交尴尬. I craved acceptance 和 understanding from my peers but it felt as though I never seemed to be truly accepted for who I was.

我被视为一个怪异的人。奇怪的一个。有时我感到自己与周围的人非常孤立。

而那些我最想给人留下深刻印象的同伴,最终有意或无意地以一种或另一种方式排斥了我。

我被嘲笑了。我被欺负了。

I always struggled as a teenager to understand why my peers said the things that they said 和 I struggled to understand their actions.

为什么有人说他们是您的朋友却又表现出完全相反的态度?人们为什么只说一句话,却表示相反?

I became a master 在 reading other people to ascertain who I would or wouldn't open up to 和 this was due to an overwhelming fear of being ridiculed or ostracised.

But by my late teenage years, this skill would fail me on a regular basis when I would begin to open up to people 和 then be burnt by them within what seemed like a matter of minutes.

So my solution was that I would steer clear of 和 avoid those that 我没有't understand. The only issue with this solution is that becoming a hermit 在 the age of 17 isn't good for your mental or emotional well being.



十几岁的时候,参与对话一直是我的努力。每次谈话我都会感到非常恐惧。

我更喜欢一个人呆着。我常常一个人呆着。

I 发现 navigating the politics of social groups 和 gatherings extremely challenging. Even in my twenties 和 thirties, this was a challenging task for me to actively participate in.

Social settings have always, 和 still do 在 times, provoked my 七星直播 into action.

What feels like a million questions would flood my brain 和 cause my 七星直播 to go into overdrive. 

我该怎么做?我说了什么?如何进行对话的第一步?他们认为我很奇怪吗?他们喜欢我吗?我只是说了些蠢话吗?他们现在恨我吗?我是否错过任何让他们认为我很奇怪的社交线索?我想寻找什么社交线索?天哪,我在盯着他们吗?我什么时候可以离开?

然后,我总是担心自己的行为很奇怪,因为让我们面对现实吧,所有这些问题都在我脑海中盘旋,我似乎显得与众不同。

因此,我只想专注于对话,但那时我已经错过了对话的全部内容,因此我回到了问题所在。

It really is a vicious cycle 和 it is incredibly difficult to get out of the cycle.

我已经被刺痛了很多次,以至于我不知道适用于社交聚会的所有社交规则。

关于社会规则的事情是,它们是不成文的。每个人都知道这些社会规则。但是,如果您一开始在社交上很尴尬,那么不成文的社交规则就是一场噩梦。通常,当您因错误而被嘲笑时,您仅知道自己违反了社交规则。



有些人知道并且仍然知道真实的我。他们接受我是因为我是谁,因为我是谁。我感谢他们的友谊。但是要到达一个我不再被人们所束缚并且足够舒适以展现真实的我的地方,我需要付出很多努力,也需要花费很多时间。我必须相信自己要开放,也要做好被击落的准备。

我一直不得不付出更多的努力来掌握大多数人似乎容易掌握的社会规则。

Being socially awkward meant that I spent a lot of time sitting back 和 observing people. Observing 和 taking mental notes on different social rules. I could see people for who they really were.

But sitting back 和 observing, when I probably should have been socialising, meant that I came across as the shy or quiet or reserved or standoffish one. But I am none of these. I am introverted until you get to know me.

It isn't the best feeling in the world being socially awkward. It can be very isolating. 我做了 spend a lot of time alone, which meant that I was happy in my own company but it also meant that I had a lot of time to run over 和 over conversations 和 interactions. This is not a good thing for someone who is socially awkward.

I have felt this way for pretty much all of my life 和 I have always blamed weakness or depression or 七星直播 or being a moody teenager. I knew that some of my peers felt this way 在 times but 我只是 thought that they coped better than 我做了 with these feelings.

现在知道我为什么不理解社交互动是有原因的-自闭症,阿斯伯格斯人,无法诊断的Aspie女孩!



自从两个孩子都被诊断出患有自闭症,尤其是现在患有O以来,我已经成长为一个人和一个妈妈。

I see so very much of myself in O 和 her struggles 在 school in understanding her friends.

我想让O知道,社交上的尴尬不会使您比周围的人更好或更坏。这只是意味着您对世界的看法不同。

I want both of my little superheroes to know that they are never alone in their thoughts 和 their struggles as I have been there. I know how it feels 和 I understand just how lost these thoughts 和 struggles can make you feel.

And I am determined to equip both O 和 L with the skills that they require to navigate the minefield that is social interactions.

I have accepted that being socially awkward is a part of what makes me me 和 I have stopped getting caught up in my fears about what others think 和 feel about me. 

我就是我。社会尴尬的一个!

2017年7月2日,星期日

What 七星直播 means to me 和 why my old brain is to blame!


您是否知道全球有13人中有1人患有七星直播症?那是世界人口的很大一部分。


七星直播 is going to mean different things to different people 和 it is also going to present differently from individual to individual. As with ASD, no two people with 七星直播 are alike.

我的七星直播, well it can look 和 feel like a number of things.....

At times, 七星直播 causes me to be utterly exhausted 和 totally bewildered by what is happening around me. I'm unable to make sense of what is occurring or how I should be responding.

At times I appear to be calm but under the surface I am a bundle of whirling anxious thoughts. My feelings 和 emotions will snowball until they become bigger 和 more difficult to manage. It feels like I am tangled in a very intricate spider web 和 the more I move around to find a way out, the more I become tangled.

我的七星直播在任何形式上都不是理性的。有时我可以感觉到我不是在理性地思考,但似乎无法摆脱七星直播之雾。

七星直播会并且已经深深地影响了我的自信心-我一直很害羞,并且有很多自信心问题。我有 一直到最近 found 称赞难以置信。我一直对自己持批评态度,而且我倾向于过度分析几乎所有内容。我一直不得不强迫自己走出舒适区。

The other thing about my 七星直播 is that it is a never ending continuous loop - I want to escape from what is making me anxious. But thinking about escaping makes me anxious so then I become anxious about being anxious. It is rather ridiculous when you start thinking about it 和 then wouldn't you know, the 七星直播 races again!

我的七星直播 has been 和 can be a very lonely 和 very private experience.


I've come to realise that for as long as 我可以 remember, 七星直播 has been in my bones 和 these days I blame my old brain for my seemingly constant anxious state.

我现在可以 听到你在想,她到底在干什么?老脑子,你是杜鹃!

我在某处读书 但不幸的是,我只是不记得在哪里,我们所有人都有“旧大脑”和“新大脑”。旧大脑是后脑,新大脑是新皮层。还有一个连接新旧之间的中脑。现在,这三个部分执行的功能都非常不同,它们彼此独立,但是它们确实来回传递信息以进行尝试,我强调TRY, 互相合作,互相支持。

现在关于旧大脑的事情是,它固执得令人难以置信,只会在无法自行做出决定时才将信息传递给新大脑。老大脑想要做出所有决定,因为它能够以非常快的速度处理信息。它吸收从我们所有感官中获取的信息,并且当它意识到存在危险时,旧大脑会刺激大脑的一个极老的部分,称为杏仁核。

Now the amygdala is an almond shaped section of nervous tissue 和 is thought that it is part of the limbic system which is responsible for our emotions, our survival instincts 和 our memory! The amygdala activates the stress response which releases stress hormones which then causes our flight, fight or freeze response to jump into action.

另一方面,新大脑 是理性的思维大脑。新大脑是大脑的有意识部分,可以 合理评估情况 and 大脑的一部分可以做出更好的决策。不幸的是,就我而言,这是永无止境的 想要保护我免受危险的老大脑拔河!

我的七星直播并没有被特别引起恐惧的任何事情激化为行动,更不用说 非七星直播的新大脑 无论如何。对于旧的“我跳到结论太快”的大脑,几乎任何情况都可能是等待爆炸的雷区。过去,我的旧大脑只是不想让我的新大脑进入!


现在,这是一个不同的故事。

几年前,我的全科医生建议服用幸福的药丸,也就是低剂量的抗抑郁药,对我来说可能是有益的。

原来 I was quite embarrassed 和 felt weak, but now I have embraced this side of me. I have come to the realisation that I need my happy pills to help me think logically 和 rationally. I need my happy pills for my new brain to take charge of my old brain.

Sure, 在 times, my old brain breaks through 和 causes me to become anxious but not nearly as often I used to. 和re are times that I have to consciously remind myself to breathe, relax 和 think logically. I have to consciously allow my new brain to take over!

我也意识到药物并不等同于虚弱。

我能够意识到我需要我的快乐药丸形式的帮助,因此这使我很坚强。

但是,如果您在我处于七星直播状态时遇到我,您可以采取许多措施来帮助我。您可以负责,告诉我,我需要休息一下才能摆脱导致我七星直播的环境。您可以尝试保持尽可能的镇定,这将帮助我恢复到平静的状态。您可以在那里,让那个让人放心的人,一切都会好起来的。

但是无论您做什么,请不要告诉我保持冷静,这丝毫不会帮助您!


只需完成一些随机事实即可!!

显然,数百万年前,当我们与一家俱乐部寻找食物时,古老的大脑发展了对危险技巧的关注!那时是需要经常注意危险的情况!虽然我们已经明显地进化了,但我们的旧大脑发现旧习惯很难打破,因此它仍然尝试将相同的“警惕危险”技能应用于现代生活!

您是否曾经想过为什么异味会引起七星直播?好吧,这与杏仁核从我们的嗅球进化而来的事实有关。触发七星直播的杏仁核与我们的嗅觉处理系统交织在一起。嗅觉系统还可以直接进入海马,负责相关的学习!因此,触发七星直播的杏仁核与我们的嗅觉感受器缠绕在一起,而我们的嗅觉感受器 intertwined with 被认为与记忆有关的海马体,当您最初闻到使您感到七星直播的东西时,您的小脑袋就会记住!

2016年11月13日星期日

处理我的恶魔


*** DISCLAIMER: In this post I discuss my own 七星直播 和 post-natal depression. If 您感到自己患有七星直播症或抑郁症,请与 您的医生或诸如 超越蓝色 。 ***


几个星期 在O通过紧急剖腹产后,我被诊断出患有纳塔尔病 Depression 和 put onto medication to assist me to get through our day to day routine. It wasn’令我非常尴尬的是我公开的东西 它。我知道这是不合逻辑的,但我一直认为自己成功了,所以 告诉别人我有PND会让我看起来虚弱。我和我的全科医生’s 指导,大约十二个月后就可以使自己断药 而且我以为yippee’到此为止。我赢了’t be needing that medication again.

跳跃 forward to mid 2014 和 I 发现 that I was again struggling to think logically. This time it wasn’t因为我有一个新生儿,也不是因为有两个 孩子们。由于没有受到医疗的重视,我很挣扎 关于L的专业人士’s health, development 和 behaviour.

我曾经 again 发现 myself sitting in my GP’s office 和 discussing with him about not 能够对发生的事情进行逻辑思考。

I’d never thought of harming myself or my children, 我只是 发现 that I wasn’t在情感上应付。 我的全科医生再次建议继续服药可能是一个好主意。和我’ve 从那以后一直在做。再次让我感到尴尬。怎么样 我到底要向我的朋友解释我’我不能在情感上应对 正在发生,而无需服药。对我来说,这似乎是一种禁忌 subject 和 again I thought that I would appear weak.

当O’s anxiety issues became more apparent 和 obvious, 和 since speaking with her 心理学家,我开始重新评估自己一直以来的七星直播 只要我记得就一直在战斗。

我可以’t pinpoint 确切地说,当我知道我第一次开始患有七星直播症时,我确实知道 那是我小时候。

我只是 guess that I’d从来没有放过七星直播,即使我成年后也一直以为 这是由于其他原因。在一所新学校,一个笨拙的少年, not being popular, starting 在 a new work place 和 so on. There was always another reason.

我可以 recall my first day 在 a new school, I think I was 7 or 8, 和 really 努力适应。是新来的还是我刚开始的时候 注意到我似乎有所不同。

小时候 孩子,我似乎总是有事情要担心。其中一些我不知道 为什么我在担心,其他人我确切地知道了为什么这是一个问题,但是我可以 似乎永远不会摆脱后顾之忧。他们总是在那里,在 me 和 following me around like a dark  cloud. I'd see worst case scenarios 和 blame myself for everything. I'd forget about the good.



作为一个 我真的很难适应这个少年。对我自己来说,我总是很尴尬。一世 always struggled to understand how other kids my age acted, talked 和 dressed. To other kids 在 my high school I was different. I hated the bus ride to 和 放学后,孩子们可能会如此残酷。我在高中的时候被欺负, 那些自称是我朋友的人和没有’t know 我。我拼命想适应,但似乎找不到办法。

在十二年级 我真的开始注意到七星直播对我有多大影响。我有很多 of self-doubt 和 doubted every inch of my being. I struggled with my own emotions 和 became a loner, which made the 欺负 a lot worse. I’m honestly not sure how I made it through year 12 和 into university.

谁的人 那时候就认识我,告诉我“但你是如此自信!” I may have appeared 自信但在水面下我是一只鸭子,疯狂划着留下 afloat.

全部通过 high school, I 发现 that I understood 和 fitted in with the boys better. They 像以前那样告诉。我了解他们。但这给我造成了更多问题 他们的女朋友会生我的气。带别人的想法’s boyfriend 没想到,我对男孩的了解比对女孩的了解要好。

我没有’t 知道如何打扮潮流,我没有’t know a thing about make-up 和 yet all the 女孩穿着它。我喜欢男孩子作为朋友,但当时’t interested in 与他们建立友谊以外的任何事情。你可以想象欺负 随之而来的八卦,以至于一些谣言随之而来 me into adulthood 和 caused issues after I finished high school…….

我喜欢 study 和 I loved music. Study 和 music didn’t change. I studied 和 I got good marks. Study 和 music were predictable, they were my escape.

其他孩子 不可预测的。

但是是 these the pressures of being in Year 12 和 knowing that I needed good marks to 上大学还是我的七星直播显示了丑陋的头?我现在知道了 it was from, 我没有’t back then.

作为一个 少年,我学到了足够的技能,知道我需要融入 crowd, 我只是 wasn’在这方面非常成功。我做了什么’没有技巧 我现在必须降低七星直播水平。

即使去 进入成年后,我想适应但没有’似乎不知道如何。我曾有一个 very small group of friends 在 University 和 I was honestly shit scared to 像我一样结交新朋友’t want to get hurt.

我做了 enough that 我没有’t stand out in the crowd. 我只是 got on 和 did my job 在 University 和 in the workplace. When I knew that I made social mistakes, I just wanted the ground to open up 和 swallow me.

即使现在 发现我似乎确实在社交上挣扎。我不知道’直到我向别人开放 肯定知道对方是什么样的人。我不知道’不想透露真实的 me, 我不知道’不想在情感上受到伤害。我只有在感到自己时才透露真实的我 放心,只要我信任与我互动的人。



O’s 心理学家最近问我是否认为自己在频谱上。如果我’d 在L之前被问过这个问题’的诊断,答案肯定是肯定的 no.

会心 what I know now about ASD 和 in particular that girls present differently, I 非常肯定地认为我也许在光谱上。 ASD肯定会解释 我的古怪举止,解释了我的情感状态,解释了为什么我 努力了解其他孩子的行为。

我不知道’t 知道我是在那时还是现在通过诊断过程 那件事,虽然我会被诊断为ASD。

I’ve been told numerous times by relatives 和 family friends who have known me since I 是个小孩子,O让他们想起了我相同的年龄。我可以看到一些 her behaviour 和 struggles that she goes through, as things that I went through.

It’s only 自从有了孩子以来,我现在对自己的皮肤很舒服。我不再 关心别人对我的看法,如果他们不这样做’t like me, that’s their loss.

I’m here for myself 和 my family, I’我不再做让别人高兴的事。我不昂热 让别人利用我或让我失望。

I occasionally still think of things that could go wrong but they no longer consume me. I see opportunities 和 positivity 和 best case scenarios. Worst case scenarios are just potential outcomes that I overthink because of my 七星直播.

I’ve come to accept 和 acknowledge that I do need my medication to keep me level headed. 这有助于我从逻辑上思考生活的方方面面。它可以帮助我 帮助我的孩子们。我不再认为这意味着我很虚弱。

I’ve finally come to accept me, PND 和 all!

我的七星直播 is part of me, it’永远不会消失,但我越老,就越 skills I learn so that 我可以 cope 和 lower my 七星直播 levels.

和我一样 学习新技能,我会将它们传递给O,以便她也可以开始构建 她显然需要的技能。我希望O现在拥有该技能,所以 后来,她的七星直播并没有’t affect her schooling 和 social life.

成为一个 teenager is hard enough, throw in 七星直播症 和 it gets a whole lot harder. 我不知道’t want O to struggle like 我做了. I want O to be confident 和 知道她可以处理扔给她的任何东西!

和 她变得更加自信,我会变得更快乐。我会知道我是 使她成为一个自信的小姐,她会接受她的缺点,并赢得了’t be ashamed to ask for help when she needs it 和 will be proud of who she becomes, 七星直播 和 all.

我希望O拥有梦dream以求的美梦。我希望我的两个孩子都相信一切都会好起来的。我希望他们俩都看到他们周围的积极性,机会和美丽,看到生活中的美好。我希望O不要害怕她的七星直播,我希望她知道她可以克服它,并且她可以伸手摘星以实现自己的梦想。