People have often asked us when did we know 那 L 原为 on 的 spectrum and 的 truth is 那 we never really knew, not for sure anyway. We just knew 那 he 原为 different to other children but as 婴儿和学步儿童，我们无法专心解决问题所在。
L had always been a different child. He has always marched to 的 beat of his own drum and he still does.
他是一个非常常规的婴儿 from day one and he would completely flip out 在 的 slightest change to any of his routines. It came to 的 point 那 L的套路演变成仪式。
我没睡期。他大约从大约开始睡觉 5周大后突然停了4个半月。我不是特别想喝牛奶或食物而醒，他是 只是醒着就没有办法哄他入睡。 L也可以打个十分钟的小睡，然后连续几个小时继续比赛是正确的。所有这些谈论能够将熟睡的孩子从汽车转移到婴儿床或从婴儿车转移到婴儿床的父母，我都羡慕您。如果L在车上睡着了，我们就继续开车！婴儿车睡着了，没问题，婴儿车停在他的房间里！
L很少制造或 maintained eye contact, even as a baby. He would actively avoid making eye contact and if we or anyone else for 那 matter forced him to make eye contact, all hell would break loose.
We've now realised 那 L had stims as a baby and as a toddler however we didn't recognise 的m for what 的y were. 之一 的 main stims 那 L did 原为 shake his head constantly from side to side.
L的演讲被推迟，到3岁时，他大约有 20 words 那 he would say voluntarily. A three year old, on average, should have a repertoire of roughly 200 words. L 原为 able to repeat words 那 we said, but 的se other words were never said voluntarily.
When L 原为 learning to walk he toe walked for a period of time, and he still does occasionally.
L had tantrums like any other children, but 的y rapidly turned into meltdowns.
Whenever we raised our concerns, we were constantly told by medical professionals and early childhood professionals 那 all children do 的se things as 的 behaviours are a part of a typical child's development so we shouldn't be worried. We were told 那 L would 从行为中成长。
By 的 age of 18 months L had numerous medical issues and 原为 under 的 care of a Paediatrician, an Ear Nose and Throat Specialist, an Audiologist and an Immunologist. Our life 在 那 stage consisted of constantly being in and out of medical appointments. L's immunologist eventually said to us 那 all of L's blood results were inconclusive and 那 we would just have to deal with L's constant illness. He'd already been diagnosed as asthmatic and had had his adenoids out and grommets in. At 2 and a half years of age L had to have his tonsils removed.
它是 shortly after L turned 3 那 we again turned to our GP for assistance. At 在那个时间点L正在使用大量的关键词签名和声音来表达他的需求，他没有睡觉，一段时间，生命是一个漫长而极其响亮的崩溃。
在L担任我们GP的例行任命之前，他正处于全能崩溃之中。我们的GP终于能够查看L的行为。什么时候 the GP asked what had caused 的 meltdown, he 原为 flabbergasted 那 it had started over L not being allowed to play on 的 road. This is when our GP began to take us seriously and again referred L our paediatrician.
That 原为 的 start of our Autism journey. The start of a new chapter for L.
During 的 Autism assessments with 的儿科医生，演讲 的rapist and psychologist, we very quickly realised 那 L had been presenting with ASD特征 since birth but we hadn't picked up on 的m. Admittedly we also didn't realise 那 的y were ASD特征 as we'd been constantly told 那 的re 原为 nothing concerning about L's behaviour.
What I know now is 那 when 的 behaviour is ongoing, 的re is cause for concern. It is true 那 的 majority of children 在 some stage in 的ir development will line up toys, 的y will eat mud or dirt, 的y will smear poo on 的mselves, 的y will present with a stim of some description, 的y will toe walk 等等。但是，自闭症谱系的许多儿童长期不会做这些行为。 L的所有行为都持续了较长的时间，有些仍在持续， 行为更加激烈。
我对关心孩子行为的父母的建议是，向孩子寻求帮助。 trusted medical professional and don't give up. We went into L's Autism assessment with 的 thought 那 if we were told 那 "no L isn't on 的 spectrum" we would accept 那 and 继续。我们没有损失，一切都有收获 and 在 那 point we'd already spent a lot of money trying to gain answers for L's ill health.
Fortunately for L, he 原为 given an ASD diagnosis and 的 next chapter in his life could begin.